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Today's circle insight is by Ivy Tse, Chief Executive Officer here at Halogen - where she writes with notes of joy and celebration for our Nation's 59th Birthday, while delving deeper into the official National Day song this year, "Not Alone," by Benjamin Kheng. Loneliness and feelings of disconnect are increasing amongst young people, and here, Ivy highlights ways we can help the youths around us, or even ourselves, navigate these feelings of isolation.
It’s that time of the year, where everyone is gearing up to celebrate the Nation’s birthday. Perhaps you managed to snag coveted seats to watch the National Day Parade (NDP) at the Padang, plan to put on your reds and whites to swing by the heartlands, or even just spending the day at the comfort of home and tuning in to the celebrations on television, we'll all feel some sense of pride for Singapore on this day.
For me? It's humming along to the all too familiar National Day Songs that I grew up listening too, and having a meal at my go-to fast food featuring their August specials. This year’s official National Day theme song, “Not Alone”, by local singer and songwriter Benjamin Kheng, has us feeling the warm and fuzzy vibes of both nostalgia and hope.
The themes about looking to one other as a community and journeying the distance as a collective, resonates with a lot of what we do here at Halogen, as we work with young people to help them uncover their inner potential to lead themselves, lead others and lead change.
Research has shown sobering trends that youths of today feel increasingly alone or disconnected from the world, and even find it harder and harder to communicate in person (Lau, 2024). Even as technology gives us many platforms for humans to connect and engage, even as we have ample opportunities in Singapore to physically gather and have unifying experiences (like that of celebrating NDP) that bring us out of momentary solitude, the threat of a "social isolation epidemic" is still imminent before us.
There's no real magic way to escaping isolation, other than putting in the intentional effort to learn to slow down, be present, lean in and make effort to stay connected. Here are some ideas to get the work started, so that you can support the youths around us, or even ourselves, navigate feelings of isolation:
Make pockets of quality time count
Young people are facing increasing levels of anxiety, stress, fear and anger in their lives. Managing these feelings can be difficult for us all, and studies have found correlation of these negative feelings with that of social isolation. Spending quality time with people you love - whether family or friends - results in a lower sense of loneliness. Spending time with one another can vary from the most simple activities - cooking and having meals together, watching a movie, reading books side by side, or taking leisurely walks around the neighbourhood. What makes a real difference while doing these activities together, is putting aside anything else going on in your mind, and just being completely present in the moment.
Tip: Craving for a bubble tea fix? Instead of reaching for your delivery app, invite someone to join you and head to the nearby bubble tea shop on foot. A walk there makes for great conversations, and it's a quick detour that you can easily fit into your day.
Build off-screen routines
Despite having connections at our fingertips and endless amounts of dopamine-boosting entertainment, Gen Zs are reported to have the least positive life outlook, coupled with lower levels of emotional and social well-being compared to older generations. The digital enablement brings lots of access and convenience, but has also eroded our ability to be human over time. To avoid having the screen take over my life, I try to build off-screen routines in my personal schedule. Making an effort to reach out to a close friend and meeting up in person, instead of chatting online, is a great start. While commuting, instead of resorting to our default habit of constantly looking at our phones (everyone’s guilty of this!), take 5 - 10 minutes of simply resting your eyes or looking out the windows at the greenery, the buildings.
Tip: Make your gadgets work for you. Schedule downtime away from the screen and set alarms or time limits on apps that you frequently use. Plan non screen activities like leafing through a magazine, go window shopping or whip out some pen and paper to doodle, and build your ability to focus on something that is not screen driven. You may find yourself being more present, not needing social media as much, and learn to use it as a supplement to your daily life instead.
Boost your soft skills through volunteering
After the pandemic, there was a surge in unemployment rates, raising concerns and anxiety among young people in regards to job attainment and security. Research shows that volunteering plays a huge role in building leadership skills, including socio-emotional skills and cultural awareness and are considered as “must-haves” for successful leaders, making you a more attractive job candidate (Woo & Hartung, 2019).
Living in a bustling city state, our day to day goes by quickly with school, internships, work, and well, everything else. Volunteering might come across as an additional commitment we may be able to squeeze somewhere in between. But what if we started integrating volunteering engagements as hobbies into our daily routines? Hobbies that help nurture our soft skills? Giving back to our community and people around us, benefits us more than we think. Now is as good a time as any, to make it a natural part of our lifestyles.
Tip: Start small, and don’t overcommit. Even an hour or a day of volunteering on your weekends or after work/school hours, can make a genuine difference. *Secret hack: Halogen offers a great volunteer programme with our Halogen+ community, with different types of cool, flexible opportunities for you to choose from.
Get sufficient sleep (or more)
It’s no secret that us Singaporeans are not getting enough sleep. A study of residents’ sleeping habits across 43 cities showed that Singapore was the third most sleep-deprived city (Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy, 2023). On average, teenagers require eight to ten hours of sleep per day, while adults require seven to nine hours. Getting sufficient sleep is essential to our general health, impacting both our physical and mental well-being. It affects our daily mood, the way we go about our routines, and even how we socialise or communicate with people around us.
Tip: For a week, try sleeping half an hour earlier than your usual bedtime, just to see the difference it can make. Make small changes to adjust your sleep routine and body clock, so that you don’t procrastinate, or find it a hassle to adjust.
Refresh your playlist!
We all love a good, sad tune when our mood calls for it. In fact, listening to music can help improve our sleep quality, mental alertness, mood, it can even reduce pain in our bodies. Sounds amazing, doesn’t it? Sad music, however, has both positive and negative effects on us. Positive effects include feelings of peacefulness, nostalgia, empathy and wonder (Bogt, 2019). Sad music can help the listener release pent-up emotions, but depending on the listener, it could prolong a state of rumination, where the mind replays and revisits emotional situations, resulting in the listener feeling even sadder afterwards (Garrido, 2018).
Tip: Audit and customise your own playlists! I build my personal playlists for happy days, emo days, exercise days, thinking days, and random days... and more. My favourite cantopop is reserved for days where I need to let out some frustration in my day. You can most certainly listen to sad songs, just pay attention to your mood and pick the tunes that can help you feel better after. 🙂
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Why is it important for young people around us to navigate these feelings of disconnect or loneliness? Last year, Halogen did a study (Navigating A Volatile World – Preparing Our Youth For The Future) to identify the different challenges young people are facing in our world, how they feel about said challenges, and what key attributes they need, in order for them to lead themselves, lead others, and lead change with creativity, idealism and resilience. A big part of young people realising their self-worth and abilities, is for them to have clarity about their beliefs and values, which leads to the development of stronger self management and interpersonal skills.
At Halogen, we are committed to helping young people grow and flourish in their communities, because we know it will lead to a better future, better world, and definitely a much less lonely one. Join us in making a real difference, and contribute your time, skills, or resources to help empower our youths of today, and tomorrow.
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References:
- HS. (2024, March 5). Navigating A Volatile World – Preparing Our Youth For The Future - Halogen. halogen.sg. Retrieved July 30, 2024, from https://halogen.sg/repository/research/navigating-a-volatile-world-preparing-our-youth-for-the-future
- https://halogen.sg/volunteer
- Lau, D. (2024, February 1). Amid concerns of loneliness and isolation, youths say they are trying to overcome fears of 'complex' in-person interactions. Today Online. Retrieved July 31, 2024, from https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/more-youth-anxious-meeting-person-feeling-judged-ips-online-2352611
- Woo, S., & Hartung, R. (2019, December 7). Help others and help yourself — by donating your time and volunteering. Today Online. Retrieved July 23, 2024, from https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/help-others-and-help-yourself-donating-your-time-volunteering
- Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy. (2023, December 18). Sleep deprivation in Singapore: a public health crisis. Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy. Retrieved July 23, 2024, from https://lkyspp.nus.edu.sg/gia/article/sleep-deprivation-in-singapore-a-public-health-crisis
- Kuwabara, K., & Xi, Z. (2024, March 26). Are face-to-face struggles of youth just a mindset issue? The Straits Times. Retrieved July 23, 2024, from https://www.straitstimes.com/opinion/are-face-to-face-struggles-of-youth-just-a-mindset-issue
- Garrido, S. (2018). The influence of personality and coping style on the affective outcomes of nostalgia: Is nostalgia a healthy coping mechanism or rumination? Personality and Individual Differences, 120, 259 - 264. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886916308522?via%3Dihub
- Bogt, T. T. (2019, June 9). Sad music depresses sad adolescents: A listener’s profile. The Society for Education, Music and Psychology Research (Sempre), 49(2), 1. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0305735619849622#bibr57-0305735619849622